Sunday, 30 June 2013

Wedding Planning- The Wedding of a Queen!

Fatimah (Radiyallahu Anha) is the youngest daughter of our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Out of all the children, she was the most beloved to him. He said, 'The Queen of the ladies in Jannat is Fatimah.' He also said, 'Fatimah is part of my body. Whoever grieves her, grieves me.'
Fatimah (Radiyallahu Anha) is the youngest daughter of our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Out of all the children, she was the most beloved to him. He said, 'The Queen of the ladies in Jannat is Fatimah.' He also said, 'Fatimah is part of my body. Whoever grieves her, grieves me.'

When Fatimah (Radiyallahu Anha) reached the age of fifteen, proposals for her marriage began to come from noble families. But the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) remained irresponsive.
Ali (Radiyallahu Anha) who was 21 at the time, says: It occurred to me that I should make a formal proposal, but then I thought, 'How could this be accomplished, for I possess nothing.' At last, encouraged by the Prophet's kindness, I went to him and expressed my intention to marry Fatima (Radiyallahu Anha). The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) was extremely pleased and asked, 'Ali! Do you possess anything to give her in Mahr?' I replied, 'Apart from a horse and armour I possess nothing.'
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, 'A soldier must, of course, have his horse. Go and sell away your armour.'

So, Ali (Radiyallahu Anhu) went and sold his armour to Uthman (Radiyallahu Anhu) for 480 Dirham and presented it to Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam). Bilal (Radiyallahu Anha) was ordered by the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) to bring some perfume and a few other things and Anas (Radiyallahu Anha) was sent to call Abu Bakr, Uthman, Talha, Zubayr with some companions from the Ansar (Radiyallahu Anhum).

When these men arrived and had taken their seats, the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) recited the Khutbah (sermon) of Nikah and gave Fatimah (Radiyallahu Anha) in marriage to Ali (Radhiallaahu Anhu). He announced, 'Bear you all witness that I have given my daughter Fatimah in marriage to Ali for 400 Mithqal of silver and Ali has accepted.' He then raised his head and made Dua saying, 'O Allah, create love and harmony between these two. Bless them and bestow upon them good children.' after the Nikah, dates were distributed.

When the time came for Fatimah (Radiyallahu Anha) to go to Ali's (Radiyallahu Anha) house, she was sent without any clamour, hue and cry accompanied by Umm Ayman (Radiyallahu Anha). After the Isha Salat, the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) went to their house, took permission and entered. He asked for a basin of water, put his blessed hands into it and sprinkled it on both Ali (Radiyallahu Anhu) and Fatimah (Radiyallahu Anha) and made Dua for them.

The sovereign of both worlds gave his beloved daughter a silver bracelet, two Yemeni sheets, four mattresses, one blanket, one pillow, one cup, one hand-grinding mill, one bedstead, a small water skin and a leather pitcher.

Hence, with much simplicity the wedding of the daughter of the leader of the worlds was solemnised. In following this Sunnah method, a wedding becomes easy to fulfill.
This blessed event teaches us important lessons pertaining to Nikah:

1. The many customs that accompany engagement ceremonies are contrary to the Sunnah. In fact, many are against the Shariah and are regarded unlawful. A verbal proposal and answer is sufficient.
 
2. To perform Nikah at an early age is wise and beneficial.
 
3. It is advisable to invite close associates for the occasion of Nikah. However, extravagance should be avoided.
 
4. It is appropriate that the bridegroom be a few years older than the bride.
 
5. If the father of the girl is an Aalim or pious and capable of performing Nikah, then he should himself solemnise the marriage.
 
6. It is good to give the Mahr Fatimi as dower.There is no harm in giving less.
 
7. It is un-Islamic for those, who do not possess the means, to incur debts in order to have grandiose weddings.
 
8. The present day practice of the intermingling of sexes at weddings is prohibited and contrary to the Shariah.
 
9. Great care must be taken as regards to Salat on occasions of marriage by all – including the bride and bridegroom.
 
10. The unnecessary expense incurred by the bride's family in holding a lavish feast has no basis in Shariah.
 
11. It is un-Islamic for the engaged couple to meet each other and also go out together.
 
12. Three things should be borne in mind when giving one's daughter gifts and presents at the time of Nikah:
- Gifts should be given within one's means (it is not permissible to take loans, on interest for such presents);
- To give necessary items;
- A show should not be made of whatever is given.
 
13. It is Sunnat for the bridegroom's family to make Walimah.
 
(Note: In Walimah, whatever is easily available should be fed to the people and care should be taken that there is no extravagance, show and that debt is not incurred in the process.)
 

14. To unduly delay Nikah after the engagement is un-Islamic.

NABI (S.W.S) NOOR HAIN YA BASHAR??

BISMILLAHHIR RAHMANIR RAHEEM
BARELWI LOGON KA EK AQEED YE BHI HAI KI ALLAH KE NABI KAREEM (S.W.S) NOOR HAIN, JISKA QURAN WA HADITH SE KOI TALLUQ NAHI ISKE BAWOOD YE APNE AAPKO AHLE SUNNAT KAHTE HAIN,, YE LOG AAPKO INSAANIYAT KE DAIRE SE BAHAR KARKE NOORI MAKHLOOQ ME DAAKHIL KAR DETE HAIN,


YE AQL SE ALAG SAMJH SE DOOR EK AQEEDA HAI AUR AAM AADMI KI SOCH WA SAMJH SE DOOR HAI, ISLAMI SHARIAT SAADA AUR AASANI SE SAMAJH ME AANE WAALI SHARIAT HAI IS TARAH KI ULJHI HUI AUR AQAL SE HATI HUI BAATON KA USSE KOI LENA NAHIN, QURAN KI AYATEN BHI BAYAN KAR RAHI HAI KI AAP(S.W.S) INSAAN THEY,



AB IS SILSILE ME QURAN KI AYATEN DEKHTE HAIN, PHIR INSHAALLAH BARELWI MASLAK KI KITABEN KHOLENGE,




"WA MA MAN NA-AASA AYYUMINU IZ ZA AHUMUL HUDA ILLA AN QAALU AB ASALLAAHU BA SHA RAR RASOOLA"



TRANS: AUR NAHI MANA KIYA LOGON KO YAH KI IMAAN LAAYEN JIS WAQT AAYI UNKE PAAS HIDAYAT MAGAR YAH KI KAHA UNHONE BHEJA ALLAH NE AADMI KO PAIGHAM PAHUNCHAANE WAALA



(BANI ISRAEL 94)



PHIR ALLAH FARMATA HAI-


"KAH AGAR HOTE BEECH ZAMEEN KE FARISHTE CHALA KARTE ALBATTA UTAARTE HUM UPER UNKE AASMAAN SE FARISHTE KO PAIGHAM PAHUNCHANE WAALA KAHA UNHONE NAHI TUM YAH KI, BAND KARO HUM KO US CHEEZ SE KI IBAADAT KARTE BAAP HAMAARE TO LE AAO HAMAARE PAAS KHULI DALEEL"




PAIGHAMBARON NE APNI BASHARIYAT KA SABOOT DETE HUE ISTARAH KAHA HAI-



"UNKE RASOOLON NE(ISKE JAWAB ME) KAHA KI HUM BHI TUMHARE JAISE AADMI HI HAIN LEKIN ALLAH APNE BANDON ME SE JIS PAR CHAAHE EHSAAN KARE"



(IBRAHEEM 11)



ALLAH KA IRSHAAD HAI-



"AUR AAP UNKE SAAMNE EK KISSA MATLAB(EK BASTI WALON KA KISSA) US WAQT BAYAN KIJIYE JABKI US BASTI ME KAI RASOOL AAYE, YANI JAB HAMNE UNKE PAAS (PAHLE) DO KO BHEJA TO UN LOGON NE (PAHLE) DONO KO JHOOTA BATAYA PHIR TEESRE(RASOOL) SE MALUM KIYA TO UN TEENO NE KAHA KI HUM TUMHAARE PAAS BHEJE GAYE HAIN, UN LOGON NE KAHA TUM TO HAMARI TARAH MAAMOOLI AADMI HO"



(YASEEN 13-15)



EK AUR AYAT MULAHIZA HO



" TO UNKI QAWM ME JO KAFFIR RAEES(MAALDAAR) THEY WO KAHNE LAGE KI YAH INSAAN SIWAAY ISKE KI TUMHARI TARAH EK MAMOOLI AADMI HAI AUR KUCH NAHI ISKA MATLAB YAH HAI KI TUMSE BARTAR HOKAR RAHEN AUR ALLAH KO(RASOOL BHEJNA) MANJOOR HOTA TO FARISHTON KO BHEJTA, HAMNE YAH BAAT APNE PAHLE BADON ME NAHI SUNI, BAS YAH EK AADMI HAI JISE JUNOON HO GAYA HAI TO KHAAS WAQT TAK USKI HAALAT KA INTEZAAR KARO"



(MOMINUN 24-25)



AUR AAGE DEKHIYE



"BAS YAH TO TUMHARI TARAH EK (MAMOOLI) AADMI HAI, YE WAHI KHATE HAIN JO TUM KHAATE HO AUR WAHI PEETE HAIN JO TUM PEETE HO AUR AGAR TUM APNE JAISE EK (MAMOOLI) AADMI KE KAHNE PAR CHALNE LAGE TO BESHAQ TUM GHAATE ME HO"


(MOMINUN 33-34)



AUR EKA WAALON NE BHI HZ SHOAIB AS KO IS TARAH KAHA THA-


"AUR TUM BHI KYA HO SIWAAY HAMAARE JAISE EK AADMI KE AUR HAM TUMKO JHOOTON ME SAMJHTE HAIN"



(SHURA 186)




ALLAH KA IRSHAAD HAI



"AUR YE LOG MATLAB ZAALIM LOG(AUR KAFFIR) CHUPKE CHUPKE KAANAFOOSI KARTE HAI KI YAH(NABI SWS) SIRF TUM JAISE EK AADMI HAIN TO KYA TUM PHIR BHI JAADU(KI BAAT) SUNNE KO UNKE PAAS JAOGE JABKI TUM JAANTE HO"



(AMBIYA 3)



AUR ISKE JAWAB ME ALLAH KA IRSHAD HAI



"AUR HAMNE AAPSE PAHLE SIRF AADMIYON HI KO PAIGHAMBAR BANAYA JISKE PAAS HUM WAHIY BHEJA KARTE THEY TO(AIY INKAAR KARNE WALON) AGAR TUM KO(YAH BAAT) MALUM NA HO KITAAB WALON SE MALUM KAR LO"



(AMBIYA 7)



AUR ALLAH NE AAPKO HUQM DIYA KI YE KAHEN



"AAP KAH DIJIYE KI MAIN TO BAS TUMHARE JAISA HI INSAAN HUN MERE PAAS TO BAS EK WAHIY AATI HAI KI TUMHARA MABOOD EK HI MABOOD HAI"


(AL KAHF 110)



QUL SUBHANA RABBI HAL KUNTU ILLA BA SHA RAR RASOOLA



TRANS:"AAP KAH DIJIYE KI PAAK HAI ALLAH MAIN TO SIRF EK AADMI (AUR) RASOOL KE AUR KYA HOON"



(BANI ISRAEL 93)



AIYYE AB ZARA UMMUL MOMINEEN HZ AISHA (RA) KI HADITH E MUBARKA BHI SUN LETE HAIN-



"NABI S.W.S BASHAR KE SIWA KOI DUSRI MAKHLOOK NA THEY APNE KAPDE DHOTE, APNI BAKRI KA DHOOD DHOTE AUR APNI SEWA(HELP) AAP KARTE THEY"



(TIRMIZI)



AB ZARA KUCH HADEESE AHMAD RAZA KE BHI SUN LIJIYE...MAIN NAHI CHAHTA KI KOI KAHE KI AHMAD RAZA KI HADITH TO BATAYI NAHI..



" RASOOL ALLAH KE NOOR SE HAIN AUR SAARI MAKHLOOQ AAPKE NOOR SE HAI"


(MAWAIZE NAEEMIA 14)



"ADAM, HAWWA, JINN WA INSAAN , ARSH NA KURSHI, HAR CHEEZ MUHAMMAD KA HI NOOR HAI"


(DEWAN DIDAR ALI 41)



"FARISHTE AAP HI KE NOOR SE PAIDA HUWE KYONKI NABI (S.W.S) FARMATE HAIN ALLAH NE HAR CHEEZ MERE NOOR SE PAIDA FARMAYI"



(SALATUS SAFA 37)



"AAPKA SAAYA ZAMEEN PAR NA PADHTA THA AUR AAP SIRF EK NOOR THEY, JAB AAP DHOOP YA CHANDNI ME CHALTE AAPKA SAAYA NAZAR NA AATA THA"



(MAJMUA RASAIL-202)


SAAYE KE TALLUQ SE MERA ARTICLE PADHE"KYA NABI SAW KA SAAYA MUBARAK NAHI THA"



BHAIYYON YE TO EK NAMOONA THA AISE BAHUT SE AFSANE BHARE PADE HAIN KYA KYA BAYAN KARUN SIRF ITNA IMAN RAKH LIJIYE KI AAP BASHAR THEY



MAINE HAQ BAAT PAHUNCHA DI 



AB JO KOI YE ARTICLE PADH RAHA HAI USKA FARZ BANTA HAI KI YE DUSRON TAK PAHUNCHAAYE......


INSHAALLAH HAMARI MAHNAT ZAROOR KAMYAB HOGI